I (27m) just discovered the real reason my girlfriend (23f) “wanted space”

2021.10.25 07:47 dilluted-ribena I (27m) just discovered the real reason my girlfriend (23f) “wanted space”

Hi guys. Never posted here before, but I always see good advice so I hope someone can help.
I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost 2 years now. We worked at the same place, then spent all of lockdown with each other, and finally moved in together a few months ago. I was excited because she meant more to me than anyone ever has, and I was prepared to do anything for her. I changed job and moved to a new city to be with her this year. I constantly treated her, often at the expense of things I needed to get myself, but I always thought it was worth it.
There had been small issues before - always reflexively hiding her phone when I walked past, and she was closed off and wouldn’t talk to me about anything persona in depth. I know she had a past, and I didn’t want to press but I let her know i’d always be there if she needed to open up.
Physically, we had a great start to the relationship, but after 6 months she lost all interest in sex. That caused some friction, because she didn’t give me a reason for a long time after. When she eventually told me, she said it sometimes hurt and made her feel uncomfortable. I was patient and have never looked at another person in that way, happy to wait for her to feel comfortable again.
After the move, her behaviour changed. She started hiding things again, closed herself off and gradually shared less and less with me about her life. When she did tell me things, it was brief and always followed by a change of subject. I worried, but always discussed it with her calmly and asking for her thoughts on it.
We had a few big arguments in the space of 2/3 weeks after, then one night she wanted me to sleep of the sofa. When I woke up, she’d broken up with me by text from the next room - saying she needed space, but still wanted to live together.
Over the last few weeks since then, she’s gone from: being angry at me for taking my own space and not talking to her, then feeling uncomfortable when I’m nice and still do things for her as a friend would, then asking for more from me when I went neutral. I’ve still had concerns and asked for clarification on things, but she maintains “there’s nothing to worry about, why do you think I’d be the kind of person to fool around?”.
But, in the last month: - She’s started talking to a new guy almost nonstop, says he’s just a friend, but never meets up with him outside of work (as she has done with 3/4 other friends at work recently).

In hindsight, these things add up and look obvious, but I realise now she has been gaslighting me for weeks and it’s causing me a lot of mental damage. I worry that it’s easy to take the woman’s side in an argument, and any complaint I make to health services or police will backfire on me.
Asking her to be honest gets me nowhere, and I respect privacy too much to go through her phone. I finally reached a breaking point, and decided to do something about it. I placed my phone on record in the apartment while I was at work. When I came home and listened through the hours of footage, I heard the voice notes she was sending throughout the day, talking about moving in with the new guy who’s “just a friend”, and laughing about the dirty texts they’ve sent each other.
It was heartbreaking at first, but I have peace of mind that I wasn’t going mad imagining things.
What I don’t know now is how I approach the next step with the knowledge I have. Do I confront her with the recording, give her another chance to be totally honest and offer some closure, or file my complaint with the police about her gaslighting? She is manipulative and abusive, and although it would never get physical I don’t feel safe living with someone who is so unstable and vindictive.
I’m in the UK if that helps the answers. At the moment I just need a bit of reassurance, I’ll appreciate anything
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